Graduation is fast approaching like that cheap jump scare in a horror movie you know is coming from miles away but still get caught off guard by it anyway.
I get restless thinking about where I am and where I'm supposed to be.
Yet at the same time I keep reminding myself that things will fall into place with a little (okay maybe a lot of) patience.
Nonetheless, these self-assurances do little to console me.
So imagine my surprise when I opened a fortune cookie given to me over the Lunar New Year celebrations and the slip of paper inside said in bright red:
If you continually give, you will continually have.
In that moment, everything just clicked.
I had been looking at this wrongly the entire time.
We expect too much of this world before barely even stepping into it.
We expect a well-paying job before paying our dues.
We expect to have quality relationships without making the effort.
We expect to see results before putting in the work.
This sort of transactional thinking ruins us.
It perpetuates an unhealthy obsession with our personal gain when in fact we should first embrace our capacity to give.
By giving to others, we are also giving to ourselves.
We don't need to have grand gestures of giving. Neither should we expect bountiful returns when we give unto others.
No matter how cliché it may sound you will never be truly successful until you learn to give beyond yourself. Empathy and kindness are the true signs of emotional intelligence.
- Will Ferrell
Our acts of giving should stem from a place of compassion.
We should push ourselves to create work that is authentic.
We should listen attentively to the needs of those important to us.
We should put in the hours to get real work done.
And by doing so, we slowly come to learn that the rewards we seek will eventually come to us.
They might not always take the form that we expect, but that should not deter us from upholding a giving spirit.
It's not too late to make this simple change in your thinking.
I for one am pretty convinced by that fortune cookie to do the same.